Bride Disinvites Groomsman’s Girlfriend from Wedding Over 'Wildly Disrespectful' Bachelor Party Behavior

• A bride shared a post on Reddit to detail the drama that led to her disinviting a groomsman's partner from her wedding
• The bride said the woman — who is friends with her fiancé's ex-girlfriend — displayed "wildly disrespectful" behavior by trying to track down where the guys were for the groom's bachelor party in order to "ruin their night out"
• "For her to start drama, trying to find the guys WHILE she is with [my fiancé's] ex? Too over-the-top for me, too disrespectful in my eyes. So she’s uninvited," the bride wrote.

A bride is wondering if she’s in the wrong after disinviting a groomsman’s partner from her wedding over behavior she deemed “wildly disrespectful.”

The bride, who shared her situation in a March 25 post on Reddit’s “Am I the A------” forum, explained that after her fiancé had his bachelor party this past weekend, she barred his cousin’s girlfriend from attending their nuptials.

The now-disinvited woman, whom the bride dubbed “CC” for the sake of the post, is friends with her fiancé’s ex-girlfriend, she explained. The bride, who has been with her fiancé for five years and engaged for one, has “never held a grudge against CC” over her friendship with the ex, she said.

“But I have made it a point to not get too chummy with CC as she is a huge gossip,” she wrote, “and has had issues with nearly all the women at some point of telling other [people’s business].”

Though she has not been a fan of CC, the bride also said she “never” talks about why she does not like her or excludes her when she does host events. That is, until the bachelor party.

“I’ve always just stayed quiet about it because I feel like everybody knows how she is and they tolerate it because they care about the cousin/groomsman,” the bride wrote. “And at the end of the day, she isn’t my problem so I’ve never felt the need to actually address it — but last night was way too much.”

On the night of the celebration, the bride “was woken up in the middle of the night” to a message and two phone calls — from three different sources — alerting her that CC was with her fiancé’s ex-girlfriend.

The messages also alerted her that CC was drunk, “mad about the bachelor party” and “trying to find out where the guys were because she wanted to pull up on them and ruin their night out,” the bride wrote. “I was/am enraged."

“I know CC knows I dislike his ex and all the drama behind why, and CC knew that at some point the guys were gonna do something together for a bachelor party,” the bride wrote. “For her to start drama, trying to find the guys WHILE she is with [my fiancé's] ex? Too over-the-top for me, too disrespectful in my eyes. So she’s uninvited.”

After learning that she was disinvited, CC started “trying to shift blame because that's what she always does,” the bride said, “but I don’t really care about the reasoning behind her blow up. How she went about it was wildly disrespectful to me.”

She concluded the post by asking Reddit users if she is “the a------” for disinviting CC from her wedding. And while some said they need the "full story" about the drama surrounding CC, the ex and the fiancé to weigh in properly, most agreed that the bride’s reaction was warranted.

First stating that she is “NTA [not the a------],” one user wrote, “If someone is actively trying to stir up drama on your wedding events, they don’t need to be there, simple as that. CC knew exactly what she was doing, and honestly, it sounds like she thrives on this kind of mess. You’ve been more than patient by tolerating her so far, but this crossed a major line.”

"Also, the fact that she was literally with the ex while trying to crash the bachelor party? That’s straight-up messy,” the user added. “Let her shift blame all she wants — she played stupid games, now she gets to sit this one out. Good call on uninviting her. Your wedding should be drama-free, not an episode of reality TV.”

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“Uninviting someone from your wedding isn’t dramatic; trying to hunt down a bachelor party with an ex is,” one user wrote in part, while another echoed, “It's your wedding so you can have people who you are comfortable with.”

“There is enough reason why you are not comfortable with CC, so as long as you are aligned with your [fiancé], then this is a non-issue,” the latter added. In response, the bride explained that she only posted because her fiancé “is a very ‘keep the peace’ kind of guy and he is standing with me on this.”

The bride added: “It’s just I don't want to cause an issue between him and his cousin, but she really pissed me off.”