Bride's Mother Doesn't Let Groom's Mother into Wedding Ceremony: 'Seriously Hate This Woman'

• Security stopped a groom's mother and aunt from entering his wedding because they showed up after the ceremony had already started
• In an anonymous submission to the TikTok advice series Dear Snarky, the bride's mother asked for input on how to handle the situation with the groom's mother because she is blaming her and the bride for her missing the wedding
• "I seriously hate this woman, and I want to know what my next move should be because I don't want my daughter to have to suffer her wrath," the mother of the bride wrote

A man's mother and aunt missed his wedding ceremony, and they blame the mother of the bride.

In an anonymous submission to Dear Snarky, a TikTok advice series by content creator Sherry Kuehl, a woman explained that she's being "vilified" for not allowing the groom's mother and aunt into her daughter's recent church wedding ceremony because they showed up late.

Knowing that the groom's mother is "always late to everything," the bride's mother repeatedly emphasized to her the importance of "being on time" far in advance.

"We even had a relative and driver assigned to her to make sure she made it to everything in a timely fashion," said Kuehl, who read aloud the mother of the bride's submission in the video, posted on March 17.

Despite the mother of the bride's attempts to help the mother of the groom, she didn't fix her timeliness. In fact, "she resisted every effort" from others and was unsurprisingly late to the couple's rehearsal dinner.

The advice-seeker held out hope that her future in-laws would still make it to her daughter's big day on time, but she was unfortunately let down.

The immediate families of the bride and groom were asked to be at the church at least an hour and a half before the wedding ceremony so that they could take group family photos. The groom's mother and aunt knew this, yet they were "a no-show."

"When we called her repeatedly, [she] and her sister kept on saying, 'We're almost there, we're almost there,' but according to the driver we hired, they were not even in the car," the bride's mother recalled.

Later in the day, she discovered that the two women had been absent because they were drinking together. By the time they made it to the wedding venue, it was "well after the ceremony had started." They "demanded to be let into the church," but the bride's mother wasn't budging.

"We had security and they wouldn't let her in due to the strict rule that no seating would occur after the wedding ceremony had started," the bride's mother said, noting that this rule was not only discussed in person, but also printed on the wedding invitations.

"Now this trainwreck is blaming me because she missed her son's wedding ceremony, and [is] taking a lot of it out on my daughter," she continued. "I seriously hate this woman, and I want to know what my next move should be because I don't want my daughter to have to suffer her wrath."

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In response, Kuehl argued that the bride's mother "did everything right" to help get the groom's mother to the wedding on time. She also said that the wedding rule was reasonable because entering the ceremony after it started could be an unwanted interruption or distraction.

"What kind of mom misses the pictures and is late to her son's wedding?" the TikToker questioned.

Kuehl speculated that the advice-seeker could likely "handle" the groom's mother's complaints, but said it was unfair for the bride to "suffer" her wrath.

Her main concern, however, is with the groom. She's "worried" because he hasn't "stepped up" and stopped his mother's "rude and hateful" mistreatment of his new wife and mother-in-law, and is "concerned" it could negatively impact their relationship.

"Why isn't he handling his mom and telling her to shut up and back off?" Kuehl asked. "He better step up or I don't know if they're going to stay married."