Bride’s Teenage Cousin Wants a Wedding Plus-One: 'Are You Kidding Me?'

• A bride-to-be shared a post on Reddit to vent her frustrations over the fact that multiple family members have requested last-minute plus-one invites to her wedding, which is just weeks away
  
• One of those family members is a teenage cousin who wants to bring his girlfriend, the bride said, exclaiming in disbelief, "Are you kidding me?"
• Commenters noted that the plus-one situation is always a "complicated topic" and urged the bride to be firm with her family and make it clear that the guest list is final

A bride says she is tired of getting guest list requests from her loved ones in the lead-up to her wedding.

The bride shared in a recent post on Reddit's 'Wedding Planning" forum that her big day is just weeks away, and she has had multiple family member — including a teenage cousin — ask for a plus-one invite, despite not being offered one. 

The bride began her post by declaring that she is "super fed up and tired of wedding planning." She added that the planning process has taken "all my energy" and is "stressing me so much."

She continued, "I’ve been trying on my dress quite a bit and I don’t even know if I love it the way I loved it when it arrived months ago anymore. I’m just so fed up!"

Making matters worse, the bride keeps receiving requests from "cousins and uncles" wanting to bring guests. She noted that one family member sent over a large sum of money to her wedding page and then emailed her to let her know "he had an extra guest [and] that he hoped it was okay."

The overwhelmed bride said she felt unable to say "no" to the family member because of his generous gift.

But then a few days later, her teenage cousin asked her aunt if his girlfriend could come to the wedding. The bride was shocked that her aunt actually followed up with her about the request and asked if she could accommodate the teenager’s girlfriend. 

"Are you kidding me?" the bride wrote in disbelief. "So I have a person to cut out of the pictures when you break up in a month?"

The bride said she is now feeling "so tired" and "super negative," and is stressed out to the point where she wishes she had opted out of having a traditional wedding and eloped instead.

She concluded her post by asking fellow Redditors for advice. 

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People in the comments sympathized with the bride while noting that she can easily put up a boundary when it comes to the guest list situation.

"Plus-ones are a very complicated topic on a whole, and I don't doubt that it's exhausting," one person wrote. "Maybe it's just time to make a stock answer of 'final numbers have been submitted, we cannot add to the guest count.' "

Another user stated that the bride opened the door to last-minute requests when she let her uncle "buy his way in." The person added, "Learn to say no."

Other commenters agreed and advised the upset bride to tell the aunt that she cannot honor the request. "[Your] wedding is in less than two months. From here on, tell people you have finalized the guest list," one wrote. 

Yet another person shared their opinion that the bride is being judgmental of her cousin's relationship.

"How long has your cousin been dating his [girlfriend]?" they asked. "I definitely did this to my cousin. I asked if I could bring my boyfriend of a year. Thankfully, she said yes. It's been 13 years since then and I'm still with him. If it's less than a year, then I get it."