Bride Feels 'Slighted' After Not Receiving a Gift from 'Well-Off' Guest Despite Going All-Out on Wedding

• A bride shared on Reddit that she felt "slighted" by the fact that all of her wedding guests did not give a gift
• She said she was especially surprised not to receive a gift from a particular guest, whom she described as being "well-off"
• Seeking opinions on the situation, she asked, "Am I wrong to feel upset by this?"

A new bride says she is feeling "slighted" after all of her guests — including one in particular whom she described as being "well-off" — failed to give a gift at her wedding.

In a post on Reddit's "Wedding" forum, the bride began by providing some context about the event, saying she and her husband had a "very small" wedding, with just 10 guests in attendance. She noted that they did not have an engagement party, shower or bachelorette/bachelor celebrations that required gift giving. They also did not do a wedding registry.

Instead, she and the groom decided to go all-out for their intimate nuptials with their close circle of loved ones.

"We did not skimp on anything for our guests," the bride shared. "We rented a private room in a fancy Italian restaurant where we had a cocktail hour followed by a four-course meal. There was an appetizer course, a salad course and a choice of four entrees with a dessert course and whatever alcohol was wanted by any guest, completely open and able to be ordered through our waitress."

At the dinner, the couple set up a cake and gifts table. "On the table, we put a QR code to give [to our honeymoon fund]. Sure enough, no one gifted anything," the bride recalled, before acknowledging that some of their friends in attendance "struggle severely financially" so she did not expect anything from them.

But, she said, she was especially taken aback that a certain guest — the one she described as "well-off" — "gave nothing," not even a card.

"She even asked at one point if the dinner was being paid for so she could continue drinking more," the bride noted of the guest.

She concluded her post by asking fellow Redditors, "Am I wrong to feel upset by this?"

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In the comments, many people shared the opinion that the bride should not have had the expectation that her guests would give gifts, no matter their financial situation.

One commenter said: "This is something that involves a mindset change. I didn’t go into any of my wedding stuff expecting anything. The choice is ours to host a party for our marriage. People take time to be there for you. They dress up in proper attire, they set aside time from whatever, etc. — that’s the gift. If you get anything else, great/pleasant surprise!"

Another person wondered why the bride was singling out the "well-off" guest. "It seems like you WANT to be angry at this person and your goal here is to find people to validate that choice," they wrote. "Your reaction over something I think most people would view as rather trivial is pretty severe, and you do not seem to hold the other guests to the same standard as you do this individual."

Other commenters, however, agreed with the bride that all of her guests broke an unspoken etiquette rule by not bringing a gift.

"This blows my mind. Who goes to a wedding without a gift?! Are these people even your friends?" one user wrote, while another said, "I personally would never attend a wedding of any kind and not give a gift, but that’s just me."

Yet another person chimed in: "I get it. Sometimes the people who you think will be generous don’t turn out to be. It’s valid to feel a little miffed, but I would try to focus on positives."

Several commenters suggested that because the wedding was so small and the couple did not have a registry, guests may have assumed that gifts were "not necessary." They also wondered if guests overlooked the QR code sign or didn't understand what it was for.

"I think you should have included the QR code in the invite with the usual note of ‘if you’d like to contribute, we have set up...’ type of situation. I’ve never seen a QR code displayed at the actual venue itself for gift giving purposes," one Redditor wrote. "People might not necessarily have known what it was for or not had time (or not wanted to waste time) to sort out funds in their account etc. at the event."

The same commenter added: "I have a hard enough time getting people to use QR codes to complete surveys at training events. Many people just overlook them or think ‘I’ll do it later.' "