Jinger Duggar Vuolo Continues Her 'Self-Discovery' Journey in New Book: 'I Don't Have It All Figured Out' (Exclusive)

Jinger Duggar Vuolo is ready to share an all-new side of herself in her upcoming book, People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations.

In the upcoming release, due out January 14, 2025, the former reality star, 30, candidly details her journey through navigating her people-pleasing habit as she shares several never-before-told stories about her personal life.

"I think that from the start, I realized that man, there are so many people who are on this journey of self-discovery with me. And I started to realize more and more I was such a people-pleaser," the former reality star tells PEOPLE exclusively. "I was so consumed with what everyone around me thought about me. And oftentimes, I saw how it just started to get serious when it started affecting my relationships or just really causing me to reject certain relationships because I was afraid of what that person might think of me."

According to the mother of two, this habit formed within her during her teen years. The worries consuming her mind "kind of led me down not the best path in my thoughts," she admits.

"I thought like, 'Oh, I'm too fat.' Even though I wasn't," she says. "I was afraid of eating too much because I was like, 'Oh no, my friends aren't going to like me because they're skinner than me.' Thankfully, I had awesome people who came around me and helped me out of that struggle of just struggling with an eating disorder. That's where I saw it first showed up, and it just kind of continued."

That pattern kept on throughout her life, the star reflects.

"I think some of it can be temperament, because I'm more passive and I really do like to be on everyone's good side or being a peacemaker, which is not always the worst thing," she continues. "There would be times where I was like, 'Oh, I really wish I could say something.' Or, I wish that I could speak up because somebody would paint me in a light and I was like, 'That's not who I am.' Or I want to say something, but I was too afraid to say anything."

Jinger knows she's not alone in this feeling, which she says has resulted in periods of "isolation" that felt "so miserable" for her.

"I think that is something that is in our faces every day. We wake up, we scroll, we see everybody's perfect lives, and we're trying to compare ourselves to then meet up to their standards of what they expect us to be," she says.

"A lot of these are just imaginary expectations. So, I wanted to write a book that would be more relatable, in a sense," she shares. "Like, 'Okay, we are all in this place of people-pleasing. I don't have it all figured out, but this is what I'm learning on this journey of trying to be set free from this. There is an answer, there is a solution.' And so, just bringing people along into my world of being a people-pleaser and things that I've found that have helped."

Jinger's latest book project comes after the release of her tell-all memoir, Becoming Free Indeed. The 2023 release detailed how she began questioning her upbringing in the controversial nondenominational Christian fundamentalist organization, Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP).

The author says "definitely" sees People Pleaser as an extension of Becoming Free Indeed.

"I think that writing Becoming Free Indeed really showed me that I was so consumed, even then," she shares. "I was so afraid to write that book because of backlash that I might get. And I saw all these people-pleasing tendencies coming up."

"So with this [new] book, it's kind of the same thing. I'm like, 'Okay, I want to share from a vulnerable place of where people-pleasing will lead you to isolation, to push out people that you want a relationship with, but you're just too afraid to show your imperfections and flaws,'" she continues. "And come to a place where we can love people from a place of not trying to gain their acceptance or approval, but just to love them for who they are and be true to who you are and not to waiver and try to become a clone of everybody around you."

Jinger wants her readers to be able to "relate the people-pleaser within themselves" and discover "there's a solution and it is found in knowing who we are and knowing who we're created to be."

"I really hope that the reader finds help because I have," she concludes. "Even though I don't have it all together or I don't have this perfect life, no one does. No one has a perfect life. That's what I've realized, and I want the reader to realize that too."

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People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations is scheduled for release from Thomas Nelson on January 14, 2025 and is available for preorder now, wherever books are sold.