Not advisable unless she is into it.

 

If she's not I'll drop it. Case closed.

 

We're both off of work for a few days next week. We can catch up on some much needed us time. Hopefully we can have an intimate conversation and we can discuss the way I feel. Doesn't mean she has to go along with it. Just think she should know that I have these fantasies.

 

Shes a whore just bring a friend pull ur cocks out bingo

 

Yeah that's sure to work. Because real life is like a porno. Chics see a cock and they have an uncontrollable urge to stick it in there mouth. I wonder how the nurses that work in the urology dept can control themselves.

 

should you need to ask: you probably shouldn't do it.

 

My wife & I had a 3 way ''MFM'' with a guy from out of state...see he don't know are friends & can't say any thing wrong ever.......:excited::excited::excited:

 

Chels has an excellent idea!

 

I would have never broached the subject at all but my hubby worked it into our daily sex by pretending to be some other guy either arranged with him watching and instructing me to pleasure is friend or adding a second guy in by having me perform orally on a dildo while he fucked me......we are both exhibitionists so our next step was visiting swinger clubs. We didn't swing but got more comfy with others watching or being nearby....

Our first threesome really was just a guy who was near us jerking off it was an easy safe intro....the third time I handled a another guys cock while my hubby fucked me...we still haven't gone all in...not sure if I want to but were happy at this level..

 

Not sure how long you have been married but if you cannot talk about or fantasize about your kinks with each other then you have a way to go yet.

Everybody has fantasies but talking about them is a big step for a lot of girls because they are afraid of your reaction. Try talking about some of your milder ones to draw her out. When she offers some of hers then be enthusiastic even when they do not include you. This is a very common reason for her not talking about it.

Shadow is right this is about communication.

That is a start. Just share the fantasy with her. I assume Jeremy&heidi is just Jeremy.

If you time it right that can work just fine.

Since you cannot talk to her then it would be a start.

Slow and steady.....brava bambina!:rose:

Good Luck

Thinskin

 

Well it's a no go so far this week on talking to her about fantasies. We haven't had a whole lot of time to talk and when we do, I don't want to venture into that territory because we kind of have our plate full with other things right now. And I'm nervous because to her this will be coming from way way out in left field. So I'm taking my time and just tell her how beautiful she is and how sexy she is to me and that I notice other men checking her out all the time. I've even pointed a few out to her at the Home Depot. Lol

 

Then check out the famous literotica thread, "Try this & report back."
You two can have enormous fun teaching her to enjoy multiple orgasms.

That's the subject of this EPIC thread! Men and women learning how to experience multiple O's, over and over until exhausted!

It will change how she sees you and how much you can open her up to - like your kinky fantasies.

You will be her guide into world's of the greatest bliss a woman can enjoy.

NOthing wrong with this - and everything RIGHT with taking your timemand getting her to se herself as a still HOT and desirable woman, just as she was before kids.

Only...better and HOTTER and more self-indulging after she enjoys multiple orgasms, G-spot orgasms (that use her uterine muscles and feel the BEST)!

 

sharing

My wife and I learned a lot about each other by reading Penthouse Letters and other magazines stories together. It was a great way to talk about what we found sexy and what we had done before. As well as discover what is completely out of bounds, or even talk about why some things seemed out of bounds to one of us, and then discover a different perspective.

 

From my PMs with J, it seems his wife H is in a different place right now, Ken.

The best place to start for them is where she is - and I think the film, based on the D.H. Lawrence book, "Lady Chatterley's Lover," is the right place to begin the discussion.

For those who don't know, the aristocratic husband is wounded in World War One and is paralyzed - he cannot perform his marital duties. Meanwhile, Lady Chatterley takes up with Mellor's, the gardener - unrespectably well below her in his station in life. He is crude but passionate to her. She loves him!

The strategy for J here is is this: should a man sacrifice strict sexual loyalty (ie, fidelity), for her sensual, erotic happiness? Is it proper for man to love his wife's needs more than his own (socially defined) self-respect?

Of course, today, we say "YES!" But back then, this was impossible to openly acknowledge, even if frequently practiced in real life.

However, once the question is opened to her, and a couple agrees to "yes" - this is proper. Then the door to sharing her is opened. Then the possibility of shared sexual delights can be broached. It opens the door, ethically. And I think this is what J needs to begine with his otherwise VERY hot wife!

She needs emotionally maybe even rationally based permission to put her sensual side firs, ahead of conventional respectability - she lacks that right now. The comfort of her loyal side to him overrides any exploratory permissions Js ready to grant her.

She needs to know that HE's open granting her a permissiveness that she is yet to grant herself - the freedom to explore erotic fantasies!

Now, there are many versions of the story on film and video. I'm no authority on the best one for a couple to share. But the one I do know best is one starring the then HOT Dutch porn star Sylvia Kristel, done in 1981. Here's a testimonial review by a viewer at imDb.com:


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I would start your wife, HERE, J. If she can be brought on board to root for the decadent heroine in the story, then she can be opened up to greater things.

Now the crucial ethical difference is this: her husband's tragic condition imposes this dilemma upon her and us, as viewers. Why should this ethic be acceptable to those of us who are not so tragically afflicted?

Because in a sound and safe and stable relationship, the same principle applies: putting her possible pleasures FIRST is not wrong.
(Women possess a far greater capacities, to both reign in their lusts as well as to voraciously overwhelm themselves in lusts, than men do. Men's desires are like clocks that only benefit from winding. A woman, by contrast, can be physiologically turned on by porn while being completely oblivious and consciously reporting that she "feels nothing." Women are more complex - DUH!)

What's different, however, is the fact that any relationship over time can get too stable, too secure, too dull! By opening up fantasies, such as the more ardent love-making viewing this film makes possible is a healthy, objectifying analog. Passions are simply not going to be forever inflamed by the same old routines!

So - this second level of ethical openness is a lesson for J to make clear afterwards, or later.

 

Welll, did that format like s***?

Good Couples Movie



Author: garycorbin1 from United States
30 April 2007

This movie is a good starter for heating up the romance in your life, especially if your female mate is a bit conservative as is my wife. We found the plot acceptable enough to keep our attention, while providing beautiful scenery and cinematography. The acting of the husband was a bit stiff and he occasionally seemed to be reading his lines. The twists along the way kept my wife intrigued and the love scenes did not offend her, as they were done in good taste. The plot is not terribly difficult to predict, but interesting to watch unfold just the same. A good movie to get the romantic fires ignited for a good evening of love making.LET's try that again.

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i used to watch this movie when I was a hormone driven teenager. Well the wife has made it perfectly clear that she does not like the idea of having sex with anybody besides me. I told her it was a fantasy of mine but it doesn't mean that it has to happen. She was a bit weirded out to say the least. Call me old fashioned but I admire her for her loyalty to me, the only man she loves. She did say that she'd be open to trying some new things to help me live out my fantasy such as role playing or showing off to strangers. But it's an absolute no to me posting pics of her on this forum. But hey, I got it off of my chest and feel somewhat at ease for telling her. Thanks for all the advice.